I have lost count of the times people with diabetes have said to me, “I would love to change my behaviour around diabetes, but I just have no motivation.” They know what they should be doing to care for their health, but they cannot seem to summon up the how. So when I tell them, “You are one of the most motivated people I have ever seen,” they tend to stare at me in utter disbelief! But then I explain. They are motivated to do all sorts of things in life:
- Watch the latest film at the cinema.
- Devote some time to engaging in an enjoyable pastime or hobby.
- Pet their cat or dog.
- Eat a delicious meal in the company of loved ones.
- Go on holiday.
I am confident there is not a single person reading this who finds that the concept of ‘motivation’ enters their mind when they are thinking of doing these fun activities! In fact, the average person would be ready, willing, and eager to get started and feel the enjoyment that these events bring.
The crucial difference with these things is they are a short-term route to good feelings and instant pleasure. The problem with health-promoting activities such as exercising, eating healthily, or testing your blood glucose, is they often do not result in pleasure in the short term — instead working up a sweat is uncomfortable, the salads are more boring than the chips, and testing your blood glucose is more pain than it is worth.
No one feels motivated to do something if the costs seem to outweigh the benefits. Go to the gym in the evening or spend a cosy night in front of the television? I am sure you can see what I mean!
Here are my top tips for staying motivated with any aspect of your diabetes health care:
- Link an activity that feels like a struggle with one that naturally feels effortless.
- Test your blood glucose and then phone or e-mail a friend you love to chat to straight after.
- Plan your exercise so it’s immediately followed by watching your favourite TV programme.
- Make the doctor’s appointment you have been putting off for months just before you sit down with you morning tea or coffee, and make a rule that you can’t have one until you’ve done it.
- Stick to your healthy eating plan for three days and reward yourself with a visit to your favourite museum, gallery, park, or shop.
- Imagine, and keep imagining, how great you will feel once you’ve accomplished your goal.
Whether it is losing a certain amount of weight, getting to the HbA1C level you are aiming for, or in a regular routine of exercising more. Having a photo, picture or object that symbolizes or is a reminder of your goal can be effective when you feel like you are losing motivation, perhaps because your goal is taking too long or the results seem too slow.
- Kindness Statement.
Keep your inner voice kind and supportive. It is so easy to find yourself talking to yourself in a negative way, and even worse, listening to it. Form a kindness statement that you find motivating and remind yourself of it often. Examples may be, “If this was easy, then everyone would be doing it!”, “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me”, “Change is challenging but each day I’m moving closer to my desired goal.”
- Remind yourself of successes you have achieved in the past, and how you can transfer this experience to your current goal.
Keep a success journal and track all of your successes, no matter how small and in whatever area of life you like. Examples could be: learning to drive, making a new friend or nurturing an existing relationship, learning how to use a computer, raising your child, having a successful work meeting, learning a new recipe, mastering a new skill, planning a holiday or family day out — you get the idea!
You might like to think back over times you have changed in the past and fill in the following worksheet.
Example Worksheet: Learning From Change
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